Whether you decide with speed or with deep deliberation, what you decide is less important than how you manage your decisions.   When you choose to speak, you must decide what to say as well as what not to say.  To deliver your message effectively you must manage your internal conversation, your public presentation and the consequences of your communication.

The real meaning of your communication comes from the response you get, regardless of your intention.  Often delivering the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, leads to misunderstanding since it is doubtful your listeners share your level of omniscience. Even if you succeed in presenting just the facts our comprehension is context dependent.  So, how you decide to present your points determines the meaningfulness of the responses you receive.

What you avoid saying can often trump what you actually say. Presenting a laundry list of every act of care and concern for your nearest and dearest  without saying “I love you” will leave your lover wanting.  Following up your points with the phrase,
“What this means to you is…”, and clearly stating it, frames your message in terms of your audience‟s perspective.  A well managed presentation gently guides your intended message inside your listener’s mind.

Your intention is a seed sown within your soul. Whether it is fecund or futile depends on the words with which you water it.   Critical self talk is like salting the earth where even  the best intentions cannot take root.  Tilling your mind to find the right words distills your intention, so that simple language can congruently convey your convictions.

The decisions which define your voice are personal and private before they are publicly presented.  When what you intend matches the response you receive you have managed to decide well.