Is Your Grace Slick?

“By ‘guts’ I mean grace under pressure.”  Hemingway was not commenting on public speaking but he might as well have been.  Your gut is probably the first and most acute experience of your anxiety around delivering a presentation.   Gracefully addressing your audience is a principled blend of pacing, poise and purpose.

The swarm of butterflies in your stomach are simply seeking a way out.  When you focus on them they just beat their wings faster, which tends to disrupt your last meal, as well as your speech.  Having a purpose beyond yourself, say, a concrete benefit to share stemming from a conscientious concern for your audience, transforms your frenetic fears into focused feeling.  Focusing your feelings, causes the butterflies to fly in formation.

Poise is simply an equal distribution of weight.   So before you even start speaking, stand with your weight equally distributed over both feet.  Take a breath and exhale.  How much you can physically say is determined by how much air you have. How you breathe determines your pace.  Balancing your breath and your stance inevitably communicates poise.

Pace your comments with your breath. When you speak fast, notice how you are forcing your breath out.  When you speak real slow, you constrain your breath.   Use pauses like periods to punctuate your points or you can  attempt to be as extreme as Victor Borge.  Often your thoughts will follow your breath and your breath will follow your thoughts.  Strive to balance their pace and your communication will become more graceful.

It takes guts to stand up and speak, but without grace you may find few people listening.  Being aware of your pace, establishing your poise and focusing your purpose will transform the pressure in your gut into grace under pressure.

How Gifted Are You?

How would feel if someone offered you a gift by saying, “Here!  Take it! I know you want it, you greedy jerk!” tossing the gift
at your feet?  Might you feel different if the same gift is offer to you with the following words, “When I found this gift I was re-
minded of how important you are to me.  I want you to have it as a token my esteem for you.” The value of a gift changes with
how it is presented.  When you present a gift consider the style, the timing and the message you want to communicate.

A gift of flowers or candy has a rather limited vocabulary.  All alone they can say little more than, “I remembered.” or possibly “I am interested.”  The gift card can add to your intended sentiment; however, delivering it personally and verbally sharing
your thoughts and feelings enhances the value.  Take care to share why you are bestowing this gift and the receiver will find it
more meaningful.

When, you give a gift, can effect its perceived value.  Imagine receiving a well deserved yearend bonus in the middle of a holiday party prefaced by the “greedy jerk” comment above.  You would be interviewing for a new job before the party ended.  Do kids really appreciate any one gift when they
tear through a pile of gifts? It’s doubtful.

Giving achievement awards which are often little more than engraved Lucite or card stock can be more valuable when the
contribution it represents is put in context, before bestowing it.

Your style of gift giving can be enhanced by marrying message and timing.  Take the time to prepare what you want to say.  Make sure the gift matches the intent of your message.  Finally, select a place and a time which highlights the gift and honor’s the recipient.
Remember a gift may have a limited life span but the esteem you bestow with it may last a lifetime.